The power of the Internet...

I am sure everyone realizes how powerful the Internet is, but do you really understand the unlimited depth that you can research material? Have you ever looked up a word on the Internet, but was not sure how to spell it? So you put the best phoentic sounds of the word and hit enter and the search came back do you mean this phonetics. The same goes for child support, money, life and the pursuit of happiness.

If you go to Court and the judge imposes a judgement on you and you don't agree, you do have the right to appeal. I am sure they want you to believe that their decision if final, but it is not that's where appeal comes in, to a higher Court. I promise you you will find at least 10 other cases just like yours, and you don't have to go to a law library to find them... Just the Internet. If your income issue is about income, type in child support issues with income. Now you may have to rearrange the words to find the topics of the cases. Also you can look up Supreme Court cases with the same ease. The key is, if you don't believe it, research it!

Mc Breed Jailed for back child support

MC Breed sent to jail over back child support, rapper MC Breed was sent to jail for at least 60 days during a child support hearing in front of Probate Judge Jennie Barkey.
The entertainer, whose real name is Eric Breed, was arrested shortly before he was to perform with Lil Wayne at Perani Arena for owing more than $200,000 in child support to three different women.
Attorney Jay Clothier, who represented Breed during the hearing, said the rapper's career was not doing as well, and he could not the child support.
Breed briefly statement was that , "He did the best he could do." "Pitiful"
Judge Barkey was unimpressed by Breed's statement and that's why she imposed the sentence.
Barkey sentenced him to 45 days in jail and $5,000 bond in the first case which stems from 1994. Breed owes $54,621 in child support in that case.
In a second case from 1994, Breed owes $135,539 and was sentenced to 45 days in jail and a $10,000 bond.
A third case from 2004 has back child support in the amount of $33,926. Breed was sentenced to 60 days in jail with a $3,000 bond.

Friend of the Court Jack Battles had told Breed he would be let of jail for the concert if he could come up with $6,000 but he was unable to raise the funds.
Its sad that Breed can go and perform at a concert, but can not raise $6,000 thousands dollars. What kind on rapper is he? I think dead beat dad should be placed in the title of his name, if all he could manage to pay was $50.00 dollars in 3 years. Maybe you did not want to pay child support.

Are you kidding me?

Ex-Beatle Paul McCartney was ordered to pay his ex-wife almost $50 million in their divorce settlement. This settlement will come in payments of $1.2 million per year, plus $5 million to purchase a home. Additionally, the court ordered him to pay $70,000 per year in child support. According to CNN online, ex-wife Heather Mills responded by complaining that her four-year-old would no longer be able to fly first class five times per year, estimated to cost around $34,000. What is she flying on?

So lets get a pure understanding of this, she get $50 million plus $70,000 a month in child support and she claims that she can not fly first class any more? Give me a break! She actually has the unmitigated gall to make such a claim? The judge estimated McCartney's net worth to be about $800 million. In fact, the settlement represents only six percent of his total assets, considering they did not sign a prenuptial agreement, I think she came out pretty good. The point of child support is to do just that: support a child. Not change the lifestyle of the mother! The child of a wealthy parent requires more than the child of an unwealthy one; because of the opportunity that is giving to a child at an early age, the expectations are greater. The status of a family that has money differs from the average family. After exposing a child to a staus of living why punish a child because the parents divorce. It would not be fair to expect that child to live on a lower standard than he or she is used to. it is fair to require a wealthy person to pay larger child support payments but there must be a limits. The reason why, A wealth familys child will always have a higher rate of exposure to opportunity because of the money and the status that has been developed with the family name. If you don't believe me look at reality TV shows such as Runs House, Jean Simmons Family Jewel. These shows allow the American public to view how they live and the type of status they have developed. They pick up the phone call an executive and get their childern places in a matter of minutes. Life does not end when the child support order is placed, but its just begining.

Sean Levert died after being jailed for paying child support

The 39 year old R&B singer died at the Lutheran Hospital from natural causes last night. He was transported to the hospital from the Cuyahoga County Jail. He was being held there on charges of not paying child support.
The Sean Levert death comes as a big surprise considering his age. The crazy thing is that his brother Gerald Levert died in in 2006 at the age of 40. There is not any evidence of foul play involved considering both of them died at such a young age. Shawn levert and Gerald Levert formed the band “LeVert” back in 1984.

Sean Levert had been sentenced to 22-months in prison for not paying child support. Sean owes $85,427.68 in back support for his three children - ages 11, 15 and 17.

I don't agree with jail time for non-child support payments. With All the crime in the United States how many cells a year do we waste on dead beat dads? I wonder is it really worth locking a man or woman up for for a year or two as a form of puishment? It offers no retributuion to the child and what does the state gain from is incarceration, a check? Why not community service, house arrest and if they don't get it then, lock him or her up.

Parent who stop visitation

Have you ever looked at a childs face when you told him or her that they could not see the non custodial parent?

It is wrong for any parent to prevent a child from bonding with their parent? Parents, you have a responsibility to pay for children you bring into this world, the money is to help with their general welfare. Providing a roof over their head, feeding, clothing, the list goes on. There is simply no excuse for denying your children their money. Equally I do not condone parents being denied access to see their kids. I guess it all boils down to educating parents and would be parents on the untold consequences this has on the innocent parties - the children.

I personally thing that the vilgalante parents that talk the law in their hand should suffer the consequences of their actions. If they think that because the dad did not pay child support that he should not see the child is not their call. They should be forced to sit in jail for the weekend while the child spends time with the non custoduial parent. I think after that the problem will be resolved.

Men have to step up and be a dad!

These school shootings are getting out of hand, their have been 2 separte incidents of school shootings in Memphis, TN over a disagreement. Is it really worth killing a guy because you did not like his team?Now days kids don't fight any more/they shoot. Even when they fight if the looser is not satisfied he may still want to get a gun and shoot up the place. The problem that we are haiving in todays society is that not enough men are stepping up and being dads! Without the leadership of a man guiding his son or daughter down the road to success they will continue to end up in trouble or in jail.

As we look at todays society we are gradually seeing more teen violence . They are commiting crimes with no remorse and never really get a grasp of what they have done until they end up in jail. Then they always have that dumb found look on their face, like what did I do? Society has changed so much that men who father childern, are doing stepping up? Everyday I hear its the teachers fault because the kids are undisciplined, and they have no directions. When in reality its the parents fault.

We as parent need to remember that children did not ask to be here, and once we take the time to create life we have to take time to preserve life.

Pro se, Did You know about this?

I learned about becoming a pro se litigant about 25 years ago. In basic terms you represent yourself. You need to be prepared when you attempt this task. It is not rocket science but it does require preparation. I have hired attorneys and I have represented myself as well. The key is don't take on more than you can handle. A 1991 American Bar Association study of self-represented litigants showed:

Persons with incomes less than $50,000 are more likely to represent themselves.
About 20% of self-represented litigants report they can afford an attorney but do not want one.
Self-represented persons are more likely to be satisfied with the judicial process than those who are represented by attorneys.
Almost 75% of those who represented themselves in court said they would do it again.
Self-representation, when combined with the power of modern information technology can be an important means of providing increased access to the legal system. The power of the Internet has given the average person the ability to research and prepare a credible argument in Court. I was a pro se litigant who obtained a divorce, resolved child support issues and was able to lower child support payment.

Please understand that the Court is not going to help you, as a matter of fact they would much rather deal with an attorney. Don't let that stop you they will guide you with nudges. So you have to be flexible and able to catch what tips they give you and run with them.

When you win, you think to yourself that it was all worth it!

The information that I share with the men and women of the World is to help you protect yourself and to have the power to know when something is not right! You see its one thing to know its not right, but its another thing to know it not right and show why its not right!

Ruling on Income you could make

Their was a court case Meredith vs Meredith.
This case was one Where Richard Meredith had retired from his job of 29 1/2 years. The court said that because of his voluntary retirement that his child support should not be reduced. Mr Meredith was making $49,000 but because of his early retirement he would make about $25,000. The court said that the calculation of his income should be based on what he was making not what he is making.


The higher ruled that the father did nothing wrong and this was the courts findings.

(1) father had been pursuing this job change for three years; (2) father had bad knees and other health concerns arising from previous injuries as a garbage collector; and (3) father’s new job had better benefits, and he would gradually make more money the longer he worked. Id. at 353.

All these facts taken together led us to conclude that father’s decline in income was not purposely brought about to reduce his support payments and that he had a legitimate reason for taking a different job.

The court always has the same issue where if a man decides to change employment that he does not want to pay child support.What? That concept blows me away that a many men would want to make less money so that he does not have to pay child support, wow.
I hope this helps one man who is something like this going on in his life.

Man trying to avoid paying Child-support by running to Canada caught.

One of the state's most delinquent in paying child support faced a judge January 2008; he is accused of fleeing to Canada to avoid paying more than $300,000 to help care for his three children over six years.
David Fisher was working in Hopkinton as a computer programming consultant earning more than $140,000 a year when he agreed in a January 2000 court hearing to pay $883 a week , which breaks down to $45, 916 dollars a year in child support for his children, who were 10, 16, and 17.
He later that year requested to have his payments reduced but the court rejected his request. For no common reason he quit making payments and was found in contempt of court for failure to comply with the child support order. The last payment was received April 17, 2001. Since then, his unpaid child support, plus interest and fees, has reached about $493,000, according to the Department of Revenue.
"The reason the amount is so high was he agreed in court to the stipulation that he could pay $880 a week, and then he didn't," said Robert R. Bliss, spokesman for the Department of Revenue. "He paid a couple thousand dollars before he stopped paying."
I have been in this situation before in life where the courts make a ruling based on the income that you are currently making. Although if you loose the job, or even receive a pay cut; the court has already determined that you were making that kind of payment and you still should. So if you get a job paying 70,ooo a year, the court will tell you that you need to get another job to make up for the rest of the income. In most cases men starts another family and that family suffers because of the income that he is paying for his first family. I unfortunately did the same thing this guy did, I did not pay for a year or two but when I was locked up for a few hours, that help me get on track. I am thankful that the courts have loosened up a little. The ideal that the man is always the blain is not fair! The only thing that a real man wants is to provide for his children and his family. Taking at advantage of a man with the court gaining profit for a man who owes child support goes against the grain. Why can the court charge interest and fees for money that is not owed to the court, but to the child? After a point the interest and fees out weigh what is actually owed, meaning that it can never be paid off. I think that the child support statues still need to be reviewed, for the court has no right to profit and the child never sees that money.

Wrongly Convicted Man Upset Over Child Support Case

Dwayne Allen Dail, who was wrongly convicted of rape and spent 18 years in prison, appeared in court Wednesday in a civil suit for back child support. Dail is entitled to $360,000 in compensation from the state for the wrongful imprisonment. New DNA evidence set him free, but Dail now says he feels imprisoned by his son's mother.
Lorraine Michaels, the mother of Dail's son, she filed the lawsuit. The suit seeks a "reasonable sum for the care and maintenance of the minor child" for the years Dail was in prison.
I understand that the Ms Michaels wants back child support although we really have to look at the picture. Dail did nothing but be in the wrong place at the right time. Okay she wants Dail to shell out some of that $360,000 dollars. I personally do not feel that he should pay anything from that money he received! The state illegally incarcerated the man; and to make matters worse she want to take some of that money for him being illegally incarcerated for 18 years for her pocket!
The right thing to do is sue the state for a violation of her son's 14 amendment rights; pain and suffering.
It is not fair to give the man double jeporady for the States mistake!

What about the Single Dads

I have 3 children, twins’ girl 14 and son 12. I have always managed to pay child support to the tune of about $85,000. I had my daughters first and their mother and I have always been close. Although when my son was born and his mother filed for child support, that is when my drama began. The twin’s mother could not accept the fact that the son was getting a portion of my check in the tune of 25%. So she also filed for child support. The drama that I spoke of earlier, started because the twins were born in Indiana and the son was born in Tennessee. Indiana law stated “that child born first” gets bigger portion of child support. Tennessee law states “child who files first” gets bigger portion of child support. I traveled back and forth between states to both Courts; telling me that “they would not honor the other states, Court Order”. I will never forget that dreadful day in June 1995 when I received my pay check, it was for $6.00 and the rest paid$750 dollars for my son and $750 a month for my twins. That not only crippled my sprit it broke me financially. I filled Bankruptcy that year.
My son’s mother was very devious. She did not want me but she could not stand to see me with another woman. When I was married she always figured out how and why to cause confusion. I think that is another story in itself and I will talk about it at a later time. I am a single father 44 years old and I have been paying child support now for my son for 12 years. I have had custody of my daughters since they were 5 years old and they are 14 years old now. My daughter’s mother just was not living a stable life, she was out their. Her family helped me to get custody. My life as a dad has not been easy. I am an only child and my mother passed away the year I received custody of the children. My mother had me when she was sixteen and she did have the support of my father. So I do understand when I hear about kids raising themselves. If laws were in placed the way they are now, years ago my mother would have been in a lot of trouble. When you haven’t been taught how to love, it is hard to for one to express love, and that as been my problem and 70% of the men in the US dealing with child support. I would like to think that the justice system is fair and impartial. Although I don't really think that is the case. I suppose the reason that I am peeved, since the evolution of cocaine to crack, more mothers are giving up there rights as parents and I found out that “there are more dead beat moms than dads”.
I have had my daughters and have never received one dime of support. It’s hard for me to explain to my girls why their mother does not call. I suppose we both have the same thought, will she ever get it together?
My thinking is that a child is supposed to always be with the mother unless she proves herself unworthy! I wish that more men would step up and take part in their children life. With guidance you may not know which way to go, but you have an ideal.

Spiritual Thoughts from My Heart.

THREE THINGS ONCE GONE, THAT NEVER COME BACK

As a man and a father this should be the structure of how we conduct our life.

Three things in life that, once gone, never come back

1. Time – Is like a river, it has no beginning and no end… It just keeps flowing
2. Words – Are like wild animals, if they are not tame when they come out they can be very destructive!
3. Opportunity – Is like holding a million dollars over a fire; drop it and it’s gone.

Three things in life that can destroy a person

1. Anger – Is a bull in a China Shop, very destructive.
2. Pride – A close mind can never be feed.
3. Unforgiveness - If our Lord and Savior could figure it out, we should too

Three things in life that you should never lose

1. Hope – Belief and hope live on the same street you loose that, what else do you have to live for?
2. Peace – With out this in your life, most people live disconnected.
3. Honesty – Goes with value, you loose honor, and you loose credibility.

Three things in life that is most valuable

1. Love - Makes the world go around.
2. Family & Friends – Are one’s greatest achievements!
3. Kindness – A luxury that one gives to another.

Three things in life that is never certain

1. Fortune – A Blessing from God!
2. Success – Can only be determined in one person mind, for everyone has his own value of what it is.
3. Dreams – Are unlimited, if you think it... It is done.

Three things that make a person

1. Commitment – Is a gift of love to each other.
2. Sincerity – The older you get the more you value what the words actually mean.
3. Hard work – The fuel that burns in you to help you achieve your goals!

Three things that are truly constant

Father - Son - Holy Spirit

( I ask the Lord to bless you, as I pray for you today; to guide you and protect you, as you go along your way. God's love is always with you, God's promises are true. And when you give God all your cares, you know God will see you through. You may pass this along to People you want God to Bless - I just did!

Why Pay Child support

As a child growing up my father was never a part of my life. My mother raised me by herself, she had me when she was 16. I hear about fathers all the time not paying child support and I think back to my childhood and I know exactly what it was like. Sometimes the shadow of giving a few token dollars gives men the impression that "they don't need to spend time with the child". In fact women would like for the man to pay child support and visit the child. Although if they had a choice 70% would rather have the dad in the child's life. Sure women can raise a boy and he becomes a man, but only a man can raise a boy to be a man. The man is the infrastructure that help the boy to be a man and a girl to become a woman. I say these things because when a man and a woman raise children together they have a 80% success ratio. When couples bond together to create a life , why can't they at least remain friends to raise that life.
The one thing as a child that I missed because of no child support was my mother... She worked long hours to raise me. From the age of 5 I had to raise myself. I learned to cook, open the door lock the door and take care of myself until she got home. As a only child it was tough on me, and believe me it gets lonely at night when you are at home all by yourself.
The payment of child support offers that extra income to send the child to day care, or go to a private school.
So why pay child support? 1st because you should, that is your child and take care of him or her. It is your responsibility and step up and be a man or woman. Always remember they did not ask to be here.

This is what being a dad is all about!

I remember watching Wide World of Sports and they pointed out this guy and his son, you know I was moved… Then the show went off and so did my attention span, as a matter of fact I am not sure who even won the Iron Man. Then a few days ago I was scanning the web and ran across something special, wow! Now as I watched the video I had to say that is a fathers love… I mean I hear all the time about a mother’s love but this man took it to a whole different level. I have to give credit to 2 sites the first being http://www.topyoutubevideos.com/ . The videos on her site were okay, but when I saw this video I was blown away. I then had to find out more about the runner and his son and then and I found this blog http://www.fatherville.com/Articles/Frontpage/Be_Inspired_by_The_Strongest_Dad_in_the_World/ now I had my ammunition to give tribute to a great man in my eye site!
ABC interviewer asked Dick Hoyt why he and his son even competed. If you have not saw the video yet dick son is disabled. Dick said that he was doing it for his son, Rick told him that he wanted to be in a race. Rick Hoyt is 44 years old and when he was born he was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth which left him brain damaged and unable to control his limbs. Doctor told Dick & Judy that Rick would be a vegetable for the rest of his life. The doctors spoke of putting Rick in an institution but the Hoyt’s weren’t buying that! They noticed even though he could not communicate his eyes would follow them around the room. When Rich was 11 the Hoyt’s took him to Tufts University to the Engineering Department and asked is their anything that could be done to help Rick communicate with them. They rigged up a device that worked with the computer; it had a control cursor attached to the top of his head. This allowed him to now communicate. His first words was “Go Bruins” After a high school classmate was paralyze in an accident and the school organized a charity run for him, Rick pecked out “Dad I want to do that”Eighty-five times Dick has pushed his disabled son, Rick 26.2 miles in a marathon. Eight times he’s not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars—all in the same day.Dick's also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike.
The story is great but this 65 year old man showed the world how much he loved his only son who was 43 years old. The love that he has for his son allowed him to compete in over a 100 races testing not only his endurance but his sons as well. I wanted everyone to know that if we took just a small chater out of these mens life and applied it to our own that we would be destined to succeed as they did. Their goal was not to win, but to finish what they started! Our goal in life should have the same focus. Although after seeing Dick and Rick work together as a team, it makes more sense to me now. You see Dick saved his son because he give him life when he took away his handicap, and Rick took away his fathers handicap as well and gave Dick a new life! Thanks for reading and I hope that you enjoyed the video and me dedication to Dick and Rick Hoyt.

Who Started this mess?

This by far as to be the topic of the week, why? Well 90% of the child support cases that exist in our life time stems strictly from the inability to get along. I mean the problem in most cases is that the guy broke up with his girlfriend and she is pregnant. Conversation with family and friends initiate the desire to get help for the Juvenile Court System. When the women make up their mind to go down to the Court, she in most case has good intentions, but the problem begin when it changes from providing for the child, to a vindictive rage to cripple the man.
Now in the man's mind the Court is going to be fair and impartial but in the womans mind she is going to work the system to the best of her ability. After the judge has waves his magic wand and implemented irreversible rulings against the man, the damage is done! For the next 18 years they have been sentence to each other through the child. I went back and forth to court in a 5 year period that my docket looked like the novel "Gone With The Wind"... yea, It was that thick. I wanted visitation she wanted more money. Then I found another woman and all hell broke loose. In most cases the women don't want the man but don't want any other woman to have them either... Then the women treat the children like pawns, they push the kids in and out the dads life when it works for them. The women are quick to say he did not pay any child support, want him locked up... Then complain if they don't get any money! Bobby Womack said it so eloquently "Girl I can't be in two places at one time". Of course I am not saying that women don't have the right to change their mind, but what I am saying is their are consequences for you wanting to hurt the man... Do they ever think that they may hurt the Child when they hurt the Dad?
I then have the issues with women that disregard what the Court ordered, generally that is the women will not let the man see the child...(that ain't right). Although let a man miss a payment they want to lock him up. I think that if a woman want to take the law in her hand when she deprives the father of his rights, that she should be deprived of her rights, Freedom. That's right lock her ass up while the child is visiting with the dad and when visitation ends she is let go. When this starts happening this will create a ripple effect across the country. So when women see what is good for the goose is good for the gander, they will not be so quick to play that game...
I have so much to say with what has happened in my life in regards to child support, some things make you just shake your head, then some make you angry. I think the worst feeling that a man has after he leaves the Court room is that he has been fu**ed and he did not even get a kiss.
I think that when the parent can not get along, a manadatory counseling should be set in place, for the sake of the child... The most successful adults in the world came from a family that had a mother and father figure in their life. I am not saying that they have to love each other, but what they should do is still care if there actions is going to effect the child...

New Law

The year of 2006 was a big step for men in American in regards to the Child Support Laws. Now the woman's income has to be considered when determining how much a man has to pay... If she makes more then a scale is used to measure and calculate how much he or she does have to pay. The unconstitutional ruling saying that it was done for the child was just a blatant lie. The only child that was being considered was the woman's child not the children living with the man!

Now this is by far is the one thing that burns me more when a woman can lie and say that a child is this guys child and it really is not. She can collect child support for years on years (tax free money) and does not have to pay the money back if the guy is determined to not be the child's father. That is fraud and the Court says that it is OK to lie and they don't even slap her on the hand; they tell the guy you should have know better... What kind of crap is that? What should be done is we rally to push for woman to be jailed and to pay restitution to the man if they commit fraud. Any kind of deception with checks or money someone is going to Jail and that is a fact. Although lie about paternity and defraud some man for $100,000 and the judge does not say anything what, kind of crap is this? I mean Men in some cases don't even have right!!!

The New Law should be Stiffer Penalties for Women that think that they are above the law. The first Ruling of Guilty For that crime would immediately change the perception that it is okay to lie in court! At least protect the men like they protect the children. Amen.

If you have Court Room stories or better yet just the injustices that were given to you with out your kiss please tell. The only stories that you hear about are nationwide injustices but if they exist all across America then we can rally together, stand up and fight!

Child Support, when do we have a chance!

Tuesday, November 29, 2007

The injustice that the men of America face with the ideal of Child Support leaves me asking the question of what is the problem with the Child Support System... Let me be the first to say that I am not writing because I don't want to pay, but because of the insane way that the Courts Systems have implemented legislation to create a tool that cripple the average men of America boggles my mind. The ideal that all a woman has to say "that's your child " Essentially sets a course in a mans life that is nothing short of a roller coaster ride. All that is done under the scope of what is best for the child, not the childern. You see if you start another family they have to suffer because of the income going to take care of the first child. Wow!

Unfortunately the things I am going to say are shocking but true.Take for instances Francisco Rodriguez who owed more than $10,000 in back child support payments. http://www.cnn.com/2007/US/07/11/paternity.cases/index.htmlA paternity case involving the 15-year-old girl who he thought was his biological daughter, according to DNA revealed she was not his daughter. Yet the state of Florida is continuing to enforce that he pay $305 a month to support his alleged daughter. He even spent a night in jail because of his delinquent payments.

So why did this happen? Because he missed his deadline to legally contest paternity. That's because, he says, the paperwork didn't reach him until after the deadline had passed!Without fail when a man does not appear in Child Support Court it is automatically assumed that he just did not want to appear... It is also assumed that he received a notice to appear in Court. Of course no certified mail is ever sent, or a receipt received. Although in the same situation that a woman does not appear in Child Support Court CSC, the assumption is she did not receive her paper work and the Court date needs to be rescheduled. It goes with out saying that the Courts are Bias and feel that any injustice that is implemented on the man is of his own doing. So regardless of the essential facts that it took two people to make a baby, the only thing that the CSC recognizes that the man should have know better and all he gets he deserves!

I love the ideal of taking care of my children, but what is not taken into consideration is that women of today are making more money than men are... Yet society still beats on the men that are trying and let the men that are not slide by.

We the men of America are not asking for a break or a hand out. Just a chance to succeeded. All comments are welcomed, if you have a horror story of your injustice please tell. The sad reality is if it does not make the news it must not be to bad!